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Conversations with Women – 20 Questions

Thanks so much for your willingness to participate in the final class of Conscious Dating. The men generated the following list of questions during the class. They also expressed that they want you to feel comfortable asking them questions about dating and relationship building, so please come ready for a respectful and authentic dialogue. Also, keep in mind that these questions are simply springboards for discussion, so we’ll just let the discussion meander where it needs to once it gets off the ground.

Refreshments will be served, compliments of the men.

1. What are you looking for in a relationship and what are some deal-breakers or red flags?
2. What makes a great first date? What is the biggest turn-off?
3. How do you generally meet the men you date?
4. What do you see or perceive as the major differences between men and women?
5. What is your main "love language" and how do you communicate that?
6. What does “masculine” mean to you, and what does it look and feel like? How about “feminine”?
7.  What do you want a man to really appreciate about you?
8. Do you believe in “love at first sight”? How long does it take for "love" to build?
9. What does a committed relationship look like to you?
10. How do you seek physical assurance/safety while dating and what is a comfortable level of touch?
11. How important is it to you for your partner to have friends, and would you care if he had women friends?
12. How do you determine whether you’re ready to date or not?
13. If you’ve been in previous relationships, how did you figure out what your contributions to the failure of the relationship were, and how have you addressed those issues?
14. How do you figure out when your anxiety in relationship is about your own unresolved internal conflicts, rather than just the problem at hand? What’s your process of resolving those intrapersonal conflicts so that the interpersonal conflict isn’t unnecessarily supercharged?
15. Why do you think people who once said they loved one another end up divorced?
16. What are some of the most important things you’ve learned about relationships in your adult life?
17. What do you think is the most valuable asset you bring to relationship?
18. How do you figure out whether someone is trustworthy or not?
19. How important is it to you that your partner knows who he is and where he’s going in life? If this is important to you, why?
20. How important is it to you that your future mate forgives his former partner/s? Why? What does forgiveness mean to you?